There's no simple solution. Sometimes, you have to wade in there with the hip boots on and shovel out the muck. There is a Python script I use heavily that lists dependencies. This can help you find vars that aren't used by other vars. It also checks your local appearance, clothing, and skin presets, but not locally saved scenes. What you can do is create a holding area folder that's not scanned by Vam. After running this script on some group of vars, start dragging the orphans out to the holding area. It also helps to launch the tool after doing some of this to see if Vam thinks you need one of those relocated orphans. Put that one back and keep going. Once you've moved all the orphans out, and the missing dependencies list in Vam is empty, then you can nuke the holding area.
For the script, you have to install Python, then you have to copy and paste the code into a file. I put it in the root Vam folder. To run it, cd into the vam root folder, and do:
python List_Deps.py -p . -n toyser
For a while I've been thinking of making a script that can list all dependencies in all vars and presets, or list which vars depend on a specific var. After getting inspired by le_hibous pyhton script (https://hub.virtamate.com/threads/too-many-heap-sections.38525/#post-108718), I finally got...
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