Firstly, I am only using VAM in Desktop mode. I have no plans to use it in VR.
I have an RTX 3090, 64 GB RAM and Ryzen 9 5950X. My pagefile is set to 20000 MB.
My VAM settings are as here:
Right now, I am running a scene with 3 female models. 2 with soft body physics off, and 1 with them on...