In VaM there's a difference between a Look preset (legacy) and a Appearance preset, but in regular speech with VaM users a look and appearance almost always refer to a appearance preset, or is meant as the what a person atom looks like.
There's 3 ways someone can share a look, I mean here what it looks like, which is as a Appearance preset, a Look preset (rare nowadays) or in a scene. Many share as a scene because they want to have it all pretty with clothes, environment, whatever. They can also have a scene and a appearance preset in the VAR, or just a appearance preset, whatever combination they want.
If you have it only as a scene, then open the scene and make a appearance preset of the look, it's simple:
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Once you make a appearance preset you can use it on any scene. There's also other types of presets, so do take a look at the other tutorials.