well, have you played with the stopper.clothskin.2 plugin (I think I have that right). It does what you say to some extent, if you play with the thickness of the clothing piece to it. It does not effect the hands and feet, but you can put on gloves and socks and adjust to have a decent effect. Also, adjust the hair. Its not exactly what you are looking for, but you definitely can add some weight to the person. What you want would probably be an updated plugin to do what you want. I really like this plugin, as it allows the entire skin to react to touch. Only issue I have is in some scenes, if I change the appearance I have to save the scene with a new appearance and the reopen for the plugin to work right. Could be something on my end.